Sunday Funday

Sometimes I ask myself what I actually did in a day, especially on the weekends. Today I decided to document most of my day in pictures so I could feel a teeny bit accomplished when I reflected back on my day.

This is me, rolled out of bed, threw a headband on, fed the cats, dog and walked the dog.

Took some time and folded 8,000 pieces of laundry 🙄

The Bain of my existence is cat boxes. I completely and absolutely hate cleaning these things every week.

These are a must each day, I need my vitamins!

Must drink water. Lots of water.

Dishes are a bitch and I absolutely hate doing them.

Laundry, wash it, dry it, fold it and eventually put it away. It’s a vicious and neverending cycle.

Unpacked my Pampered Chef order and am über excited to use these things to meal prep and holiday bake.

Spent time with friends at the local Fall 🍁 Festival and enjoyed the sights and sounds in 80 degree weather. Even picked up a little sun!

Came home and planted my succulents and baked a couple of pumpkin pies 🎃

When I look back and think about my days and if I have actually accomplished things, I need to remind myself that a lot of the little things add up to big things and that’s how I feel like I actually get things done.

Sharing in your 30’s

Today I was messaging a friend back and forth about random stuff. Some point in the messaging I shared that I saved money at Target and spent under $100. That alone friends is a HUGE accomplishment, but then she sent me her receipt from Michael’s and I instantly felt better.

My point in sharing this is I started to wonder did our mom’s ever call each other and say “Hey Sally, I saved a lot at KMart today!” or when our dad’s got home they said “Look honey, I couponed at Gold Circle and saved us $50, but got all this cool stuff!”

Was there ever really a store our parents went into and intended on going on for toothpaste or paper towels and walked out with $100 of random crap, kinda like I do at Target?

Is it because we have cell phones now and can message, tweet, snap, Facebook or Instagram every single thing that happens as soon as it happens?

I find that now that I can communicate in real time with certain people and I share a lot more now that maybe I ever did when I had to wait to get home and then pick up the phone and call.

Let’s take for example the other day when I wasn’t feeling good. I was able to tell two friends and get their advice in a matter of minutes. Before technology I would have spent an hour on the phone with each one and accomplished nothing else.

I’m not able to be in Chicago this weekend and since I can’t see my beautiful daughter or gorgeous nephew start to crawl and pull himself up, I’m luckily able to see this all via video and sort of feel like I wasn’t missing out too much.

I’m on the brink of 40 and I have a few good friends I talk to daily. The nice things about these friends is I can talk to them about pretty much anything. From bodily functions, pets, recipes, weight, pains, love, relationships, family and just about anything in between. We can send pictures, videos and get advice at the drop of a needle.

I am not sure why in my 30’s sharing has become easier than when I was in my teens or 20’s, now you could ask me about anything and I would share and share away.

Not sure what is ahead in my 40’s, but I hope to never lose my ability to share and talk with my girlfriends like I do now.

Coming up in the next few days I am going to talk about what the phrases “basic bitch” and “high maintenance” mean, these phrases have been popping up around lately and have me befuddled.

Monday Musings

Well, another weekend has come and gone and I am pretty sure I accomplished nothing.  Zip, zero, zilch – nada.

When I reflect back on it, I guess I had a good weekend with a hectic social life, that allowed me to spend time with family and friends.

Then I wonder why did I spend time with everyone instead of taking time for me?

Then the anxiety edges in, the headache, the nausea and shit I have just made myself sick, all because I am a people pleaser who can’t ever say no to anyone.

You see, I don’t think like most people. My mind races constantly, I worry all day long and I am always wondering what people think about what Insay, wear or do.

I could have stayed home alone, but instead I went to see the Cincinnati Thunder play on Friday, which was a sad game, but the company was amazing! I saw extended family I don’t see often and got caught up in a spectacular lightening storm on my way home.

Saturday gave way to an old friend bringing their girlfriend to Columbus for her first NHL game and dinner.  The game was amazing and being around friends was great. I think however that I managed to be kinda rude and pulled away from the guy I went with. You see, as awesome, exciting and great the first coupleof weeks were, I managed to shut it down as fast as it started. 

Here is how I feel at the moment…

  • I am too picky and too stubborn – I don’t think that I can deal with anyone else in my life. 
  • I can’t be mean to people (most of the time).
  • I don’t like rejection and I don’t like to reject anyone. 
  • I like affection and love – on my terms.
  • I don’t like messes.
  • I need to feel safe.
  • There are times I am lovey dovey and there are times I am not. It all depends on how I am feeling.
  • Part of my personality is being very organized and very structured.
  • I like calendars, plans and routine. 

I became very overwhelmed after the first couple weeks he and I dated and it has pushed me to shut down.

It was super exciting, new, pleasurable and wonderful. Then it became too much. 

I was trying to work through it all, but still…

I have always been in a relationship that makes the other person happy, the old Jody would say “vacation with you and your family = awesome” or “you love me, great let’s move in together“. 

This Jody knows she can more or less do it on her own and do it well, so anyone I let in is a added bonus. 

  • It will take a special person to love me the way I am. 
  • It will take a special person for me to love and not feel like they are a “project” for me. 
  • I am a head case.
  • I wonder if dating is all that it is cracked up to be?

After a family/friend fun weekend that concluded with a birthday party for an adorable three-year old and being surrounded by people, I closed my eyes and wondered what else is out there?

Deep inside, maybe I am a loner. I blend in with everyone around me, choose to be social and then I am sad, but content when everyone is gone. I love a small group of people that include family and a few good friends, to get inside that circle, you have to be pretty awesome and patient.

It is Monday night, I am in need of sleep and work just keeps piling on. I am no good to anyone right now, not even myself or my daughter. I am snippy, bitchy and downright cranky.

This quote from Horacio Jones says it best:

“I like being alone. I have control over my own shit. Therefore, in order to win me over, your presence has to feel better than my solitude. You’re not competing with another person, you are competing with my comfort zones.”

Peace and well wishes friends.

10 Things Everyone Should Do

When I was a kid things were easy.  I got up, went to school, did homework, ate dinner, played, went to bed ~ repeat. 

Now that I am edging on 39 I spend a lot of time reflecting on things I wish I knew prior to the last 20 years occurring. 

1.  Use moisturizer and sunscreen – your skin won’t look like you are 18 forever.  You also can’t turn back time and fix spending too much time in the elements. 

2.  Learn about retirement plans and start planning ahead.  Social Security isn’t guaranteed and cashing out 401K’s when you leave jobs is not the answer. Save money.

3. Pay attention to your credit.  Past due medical bills can affect your credit.  Check your report, be vigilant in keeping your score in a respectable place.  

4.  Do your research.  On everything.  Don’t just buy it because it is pretty or your friends bought it.  Check it out and double check it.  Try before you buy if you can. 

5.  Trust your gut. It doesn’t lie.  Wether it is parenting, relationships or your career.  Trust it. Don’t second guess yourself and don’t always listen to others when they are chirping in your ear. 

6. Get a pet.  I don’t know how to explain it, but having your own pet changes your life.

7.  Take all the pictures you want.  Document it, enjoy the moments and reflect back on them later. 

8. Make new friends, but keep the old.  Friends are important, but as we get older, our interest change, kids and significant others happen.  We meet new people and that’s okay.  As long as we treat each other with love and respect, new friends are a-okay. 

9. Listen more.  Talk more.  Make your opionions heard.  Don’t muffle your voice.  If you don’t want to speak loudly, write, if you don’t want to publish what you write, keep a journal. 

Last on my list….

10.  Pick up the phone and call your family.  I was so happy that at 18 I was free, but I need to remember that I wouldn’t have made it to 18, let alone 38 without the help of family. 

There you have it, 10 things that in the last 20 years I didn’t learn on the Internet or in a class at school.

Goodbye 2016, Hello 2017

I am not going to say that I hated 2016, it wasn’t all bad.  Each year has its own peaks and valleys and 2016 had just that.

These aren’t in order, but they are the awesome things that happened in 2016!

  • Saw some great theatre productions with friends and family.
  • Attended many Blue Jackets, Browns and Ohio State games.
  • Watched amazing CAVS & Indians games from home.
  • Cleaned out one office and set up another.
  • Painted a few pictures on my own.
  • Tried lots of new food & made lots of new recipes, along with embracing Samantha’s vegetarian diet.
  • Traveled.  A lot.
  • Had lots of friends visit from out of town.
  • Had some awesome experiences with old friends; camping, IKEA, Put-In-Bay and bonfires.
  • Went to my 20 year high school reunion with a long time high school friend.
  • Rekindled a relationship with my high school best friend and her family.
  • Samantha started her senior year of high school.
  • Re-did Samantha’s bedroom with a lot of help from friends.
  • Made new friendships that I am cherishing.
  • Knocked some things off my bucket list as well, Cleveland Orchestra on the 4th of July, Cleveland Oktoberfest & Christkindl in Chicago.

2016 had its own challenges and those help mold me into a better person and work to make strides in 2017.

I have set some goals for 2017, but they are achievable if I set my mind to it.

  • Open savings account.
  • Start to pay off old debt and improve my credit score.
  • Stop spending unnecessarily.
  • Fix other financial obligations.
  • Walk 3-4 times a week (more than just walking Pippa).
  • Improve health problems with eating better and drinking more water.
  • Find a parish I like and attend mass more often.
  • Improve relationships to make them meaningful and beneficial to both parties.
  • Spend time with my mom more.
  • Reconcile my relationship with my dad.
  • Read 12 books.
  • Cook more at home vs eating out.
  • Celebrate small successes and don’t focus on failures.
  • Face my problems, not bury them.
  • Volunteer more.

One thing I realized this past year is that I love people, always have.  Yet I have been semi-successful in realizing I can’t make everyone happy, so why try?

People don’t make me happy.  I make me happy.  In order to make myself happy, I need to work on me. Samantha is off to college in 2017, so if I can’t enjoy being with myself, there will a lot of lonely time.

Here are a few of my favorite pictures from 2016, the ones that make me smile the most.

May you have a wonderful end to 2016 and join me in my journey through an honest and intentional 2017.

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