The Year of Me

Here we go, another year has passed me by and another year is starting. In the past I have written about the year passed and the new year, but this year I kind of want to just talk about me. Selfish, right?

I have learned that I need to be selfish sometimes. Do what works for me, what makes me happy and take care of my needs. For example, I started to go to the gym again and have learned that I really like yoga. I mean who says that they like yoga? It’s hard and it’s challenging but guess what, if I don’t go a couple times a week I am so crabby.

As much as I am pretty good about eating right, I have stopped the whole diet merry-go-round. Instead I eat what tastes good, but do it in moderation and it will all be okay and taste good at the end.

I had some rough times, but we all do. I lost some good people and there were some sad times, but I know it is all about how we come out of the hard times and shine into the good times that matter. It was a weird year in so many ways, Sam was away at school and over the summer, then she came back, and so I went from being an empty nester to having a college student back at home. It has been a challenge, but so much fun.

Animals are amazing, I have really enjoyed fostering for DASH this year. We have had copious amounts of dogs and cats and our animals have adjusted fairly well. We lost sweet Logan, but we gained Hildie.

I took some time to collect pictures from this year that meant the most to me. Funny how Facebook shows you all the good that happened, because who posts the crappy stuff, but when I really think about it, 2018 wasn’t all that bad.

Here are some of the highlights of 2018:

  • I turned 40, that was a biggie. I was so grateful for my friends who came out and celebrated with me.
  • Saw a number of theatre productions with Olivia, Samantha and friends.
  • One word – hockey – I love it and I saw a lot of it.
  • Friends – so much time with friends, I cherish them all so much.
  • Checked a few things off my bucket list, meeting a CBJ player, going to Wildlights at the Columbus Zoo, catching an OSU hockey game, volunteer with Easter Seals and taking Samantha on a real vacation to Myrtle Beach.
  • There were some pitfalls, like falling twice in a day and essentially damaging both ankles for a few weeks.
  • Went to my first Bar Mitzvah & celebrated Hanukkah with friends
  • Caught a last minute Cleveland Indians game
  • Enjoyed a lovely Mother’s Day and Easter with family
  • Had a promotion with work to Director of Special Projects with Thrive Peer Support & spent a lot of time talking about recovery at some conferences.
  • Visited Cedar Point for Halloweekends and actually rode some rides
  • Took James to his first CAVS game & Paw Patrol
  • Made a few adult trips to COSI and a couple crafty nights out with the girls
  • Went to Chicago, saw the cutest little boy and hung with Rachel and Eddie
  • Ate some amazing food along the way and made some amazing food too

The strong bond of friendship is not always a balanced equation; friendship is not always about giving and taking in equal shares. Instead, friendship is grounded in a feeling that you know exactly who will be there for you when you need something, no matter what or when. – Simon Sinek

Friendship is really what has gotten me through 2018. If it wasn’t for friends, I am not sure I would be where I am at right now. For the times I wasn’t sure if I could pay bills, asking for help when the car died, taking care of medical bills because I just didn’t have health insurance yet and when I was struggling with my dad being so far away battling cancer. My friends have been there. Good, bad and indifferent, they are there. The small group I call my friends hasn’t changed much in the last 10-ish years, there have been some additions and a few subtractions, but overall they are my rock. We celebrate together, we vent together and we laugh together.

Now onto the goals of 2019…this is not usually my strong suit. I am not a fan of setting goals, I mean I am a project manager so I spend a lot of time creating goals and achieving them for work, I am not what you would say am good about setting personal goals and sticking to them.

*** Drumroll Please ***

  • Find a new class at the gym each month and go to it
  • Set some short term achievable objectives for my health
  • Schedule a mammogram and physical (now that I have health insurance)
  • Check a few more things off my bucket list
  • Travel somewhere I have never been
  • Read 6 books
  • Check in on a friend every day
  • Do better at checking in and helping my mom
  • Stop being so critical of everyone and worry more about my side of the street
  • Blog a little more
  • Cook a little more
  • Take a cooking class
  • Go camping
  • Light a candle, use the smelly lotion and buy the expensive perfume once in a while
  • Eat all the good foods
  • Treat everyone I come in contact with a little kinder and a little gentler

It isn’t much, in fact it isn’t anything really tangible. However it works and they are all things I can actually accomplish if I put my mind to it.

Whatever you may come across, I hope that you succeed. If you need some encouragement to get done what you need to get done, ask. If you just want to sit and be still, do it. There is no right or wrong way to go about your life and now that I am 40, I am truly a firm believer in that.

May you have all the blessings in 2019 and I look forward to sharing the journey with you.

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